Feeling like you're reliving the same situations over and over again? What NEW choices would you like to be making?
Becoming aware of where you’d like to go, and of what you’d like to experience requires awareness. You need to allow yourself to go there.
The thing that stops most people from moving forward is the attachment to current ways of perceiving themselves and the world.
Those are HABITS of thinking, feeling, and behaving. As I've mentioned in previous articles and posts, they are HABITS based on what you PERCEIVE to be TRUE.
This is a somewhat unconscious state of being, most often leading us to experience life as a self-fulfilling prophecy where people and events reaffirm what we already believed to be true. When it creates negative experiences and emotions it's because these situations leave us feeling trapped, frustrated, and not of much power.
This in turn leaves one STUCK in old ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving and therefore leaves one to relive the same experiences and emotions over and over again as if trapped in a loop that is seemingly impossible to get out of.
On a scale from 1-10 where 10 is absolutely true, how true is this for you based on your own experience?
We remain stuck until we notice that there's a pattern going on in how we perceive the world, and how it makes us feel and behave. Then we can choose what we want to do with that insight.
If you would be in a coaching session with me, we would investigate your perception of what's going on. Let's take another angle here and look at what it is you'd like to accomplish.
What’s your NO 1 priority of a change you'd like to make in terms of a new behavior?
For example, to stand up for yourself more, set firmer boundaries with others, or practice more self-compassion? You choose.
2. How would you show up differently if you did this? Imagine yourself as if you're already doing it.
3. What would it FEEL like to show up this way? Get into your body and feel it now.
Notice what's different. How easy is it for you to let go of the old feeling to adopt this new one?
4. What is one small promise you can make to yourself today that would support this way of being?
Making and then KEEPING promises to yourself that are in alignment with how you’d like to show up is KEY.
This will build momentum in the right direction but your old habits and ways of behaving will protest, be sure to anticipate this. Having an accountability partner while doing this can be the solution. This can be a friend, a colleague, a spouse, a coach, or a therapist. You choose what works for you.
Want to brainstorm what change would look like for you and to get clarity on what’s getting in your way?
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